Essential oils for love and romance

By Alison Angold ITEC CIDESCO

Using essential oils for love and romance, can add to, and enhance an intimate atmosphere and help you feel more sexy and desirable. Here, we are going to look at the best oils for love and romance, how they work and how to use them to create a sexy, yet romantic ambience!

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Essential oils for love and romance

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The best essential oils to use for love, romance, heightening desire and sexuality are;

  • Clary sage
  • Frankincense
  • Ginger
  • Grapefruit
  • Jasmine
  • Neroli
  • Patchouli
  • Rose
  • Sandalwood
  • Vetiver
  • Lavender
  • Rosemary
  • Ylang ylang

(Please check for precautions for each oil here)

The aromas of essential oils can be uplifting and intoxicating, and can be enough to put you in the mood for love and getting intimate with your partner.  However the oils work in different ways too. The molecules from the oils are inhaled through the nose and enter the body via the olfactory system.  This system is linked to the brain, so the scents can trigger feelings of love and romance and heighten our sexual desire and feelings of intimacy. 

In addition to this, when the oils are applied to the skin, the molecules get absorbed into the blood stream and travel around the body to have an effect. In the case of essential oils for love and romance, they can help relax the body as a whole, clear the mind of other thoughts or worry, or more specifically, head to the reproductive systems to get things moving and working in that area!

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While the aromas of the oil, can help to relax or uplift us, during intimate times together, the oils also have specific properties that can help increase desire, and improve sex.

Essential oils are the pure oils that are extracted from flowers, fruits, herbs, plants and tree’s.  Each oil has a unique chemical composition, which gives it specific therapeutic actions, on the mind, body and skin. The therapeutic actions we want to look for, for essential oils for love and romance are;

Aphrodisiac – an essential oil that is an aphrodisiac is said to heighten sexual desire.  The oil will have an effect on the nervous, endocrine and reproductive systems.  

  • Ginger
  • Jasmine
  • Sandalwood
  • Vetiver
  • Ylang Ylang

Balancing – a balancing essential oil creates balance in emotions, or balances activity in the body.  This can be useful, if you are busy, feeling out of sorts, or feel too unsettled to be romantic or enjoy love making.

  • Lavender

Calming – has an overall calming effect.  A calm body and mind, will be more open to the idea of romance and feel more open to intimacy with your partner.

Cephalic – clears and focuses the mind.  A busy or tired mind will find it hard be romantic, or not feel in the mood for love.  These oils clear the mind, and give clarity of thought.

Relaxing – has a general relaxing effect.  A relaxed body is essential to be intimate.  These oils will help regulate heart rate, breathing rate and begin to relax tense muscles.

Sedative – calms the nervous system.  A further step of relaxation, sedating oils really work to calm and relax the nervous system.  This will ensure a relaxed body and mind.

  • Ylang ylang
  • Vetiver
  • Sandalwood
  • Rose
  • Patchouli
  • Neroli

Tonic – invigorates and gives strength to the body – great to prepare you for an ‘active’ romantic night!

  • Frankincense
  • Jasmine
  • Neroli
  • Rose
  • Sandalwood

Uplifting – helps positive thinking, and lifts the emotions.

  • Clary sage
  • Grapefruit
  • Frankincense
  • Jasmine

How to use essential oils for love and romance

There are several ways to effectively use essential oils for love, romance and promote feelings of desire and intimacy .

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Diffuser or burner

Using a diffuser or burner is an ideal way to set the mood in the bedroom (or whatever room you are choosing!)  The aromas will fill the air and can be inhaled. Allow the oils to diffuse or burn for an hour or so before, so they fill the space and create a suitable atmosphere.

Diffuser blends

Aphrodisiac – Ginger & Jasmine

Soothe and relax – Patchouli & Rose

Unwind and calm – Lavender & Vetiver

Uplift and excite – Grapefruit, Neroli & Lavender

Focus & Calm – Frankincense, Lavender & Grapefruit

Massage oil

Create even more intimacy by blending a massage oil to use on each other! What better way to create a relaxing, sexy atmosphere and to become closer to each other by applying a massage oil and relaxing each other with soothing and sexy massage movements.

Massage oil for love and romance recipes

Try either of these blends to get you in the mood. Store in amber bottles, like these.

Love blend #1

  • 100ml Sweet almond oil
  • 10 drops Ylang Ylang
  • 8 drops Jasmine
  • 8 drops Lemon

Love blend #2

  • 100ml Sweet Almond Oil
  • 10 drops Ylang Ylang
  • 8 drops Sandalwood
  • 8 drops Orange

Bath oil

Is there anything more intimate than sharing a bath?  These bath oils recipes will help your bodies relax and restore, clear your mind and balance your body.

Bath oil recipes for love and romance

Bath oil blend #1

Bath oil blend #2

  • 50ml sweet almond oil
  • 50ml soyabean oil
  • 8 drops Clary sage
  • 8 drops Grapefruit
  • 8 drops Lavender

Lingerie bags

So simple to create, use these sweet smelling bags to scent your underwear and when you wear it you feel sexy all day long! Create these beautiful scent sachets to keep in your lingerie drawer. Also ideal to give as gifts.

Simply add the essential oil some cotton wool balls and stuff them in these linen bags. Snuggle them in among your underwear for fresh, sexy scents! Try the following blends;

Blend #1 – Rose, Lavender & Lemon

Blend #2 – Sandalwood, Patchouli & Ginger

Blend #3 – Ylang Ylang, Jasmine & Bergamot

Body spray

A fine mist of a body spray, not only hydrates your skin and gives you a shimmering, sexy glow, but the scents will help to create your intimate, romantic atmosphere and your partner won’t be able to wait to get their hands on you!

Try these blends. Ensure to store in a fine spray amber bottle, and shake really well before spraying.

Sweet & sexy body spray

  • 25ml sweet almond oil
  • Top up to 50ml with distilled water
  • 6 drops Jasmine
  • 6 drops Neroli

Exotic floral body spray

  • 25ml sweet almond oil
  • Top up to 50ml with distilled water
  • 6 drops Vetiver
  • 6 drops Ylang Ylang

Linen spray

Spraying your bed sheets with a blend of essential oils for love and romance is a great alternative to the other methods. The spray will keep the mood alive and allow you to inhale and benefit from the aromas, as well as keeping your bed linen fresh, clean and inviting!

Linen spray recipe

the best essential oils for love and romance

Let’s take a closer look at the oils for love and romance.

Clary sage – is uplifting and promotes feelings of euphoria and well being.  Is also said to help impotence and frigidity.

(Do not use during pregnancy, or before or after alcohol)

Frankincense – is comforting, warming, relaxing and uplifting.  Helps to calm and focus and strengthen the mind.  

Ginger – heightens the senses and warms the emotions.  Good for impotence and is an aphrodisiac, so heightens sexual desire.

(Avoid on very sensitive skins)

Grapefruit – is uplifting and refreshing while reviving the mind and creating feelings of euphoria.

Jasmine – improves self-confidence, self-esteem, and optimism. It also lifts depression, warms the emotions, and is an aphrodisiac.

(Do not use during pregnancy)

Neroli – relieves anxiety and calms and soothes nerve endings.

Patchouli – is calming, grounding, uplifting and clearing. Is also said to help frigidity.

Rose – is relaxing and helps impotence and frigidity.

(Avoid during pregnancy)

Sandalwood – is an aphrodisiac so heightens sexual desire as well as improving self-esteem, and helping uplift depression.

Vetiver – calms the mind, calms and grounds the body. It is also an aphrodisiac and helps relax feelings of anxiety.

Ylang Ylang – Helps with impotence and frigidity, ylang ylang is a relaxing and calming oil. It is also an aphrodisiac.

(Can cause headaches in large amounts)

Lavender – is uplifting, calming stimulating and balancing. It helps to relieve stress and tension.

Rosemary – helps with impotence.

(Do not use during pregnancy or if epileptic, or by those with high blood pressure)

Essential oils are mostly safe if used in the correct amounts. Please do not ingest the essential oils and do not use the oils, directly on the genitals.

About the Author
Alison Angold is a fully qualified (certified) beauty therapist, massage therapist and aromatherapist from the UK. She has over 25 years experience in this industry and has worked in a variety of beauty salons, spa’s as well as running her own successful beauty and massage business. Her career has allowed her to treat many, many clients, with skincare concerns, medical conditions, and a whole variety of other ailments and issues, that has enabled her to work closely with essential oils, prescribing specific blends for these clients to help with these conditions. Her qualifications in the use of essential oils and aromatherapy, allow her to share this knowledge with others, in a safe, reliable way.